Why people stay stuck in addiction for so long

When I was in a porn addiction, I would get so caught up in the amount of days it had been since I had last relapsed. I rarely zoomed out and saw the bigger picture.

To be honest, I hadn't even considered that I had an addiction. I saw my NoFap streaks as a self-development style challenge. But, then I met Mari Paulus and my perspective began to change. I was taught that the fact that I was still relapsing showed I was still in the addiction. This sounds so obvious but because I'd been on a few long-ish streaks, I'd let the addicted part of the mind (APOTM) convince me that I was the one in control.

The truth is that I was far from in control.

Instead, I was trying my very best to manage and control my addiction. And this only ever lasted so long.

Mari Paulus taught me how to stand up to the APOTM correctly and outsmart it strategically.

I didn't learn what I wanted to learn. I learned what I needed to learn.

And I am so grateful that I did. Nowadays, everything has changed. I feel driven towards pursuing my goals and building the life that I want to live, without anything holding me back.

If you are unsure whether you have an addiction or not, don't waste the time or energy trying to figure this out.

If you are still relapsing, then you have a problem. And fortunately, you can solve this problem. If you choose to overcome porn for good correctly, you'll not only find life on the other side better - you'll realise how much easier life is when you are free from compulsive desires.

People stay in addictions for so long because they rarely realise that it is relapsing that keeps them trapped. Every relapse strengthens the addicted neural pathways and puts the APOTM back in control indefinitely. The path out of addiction is to stop correctly and stay stopped for good. Permanent mental freedom is possible.