Last night, I spent over 3 hours in the podcast studio. We had a big BCA group call (record number of guys on it) and then I went straight to playing football. The football game was with some guys I haven't played with before and it was pretty terrible. We ended up playing for an extra 20 minutes and so I didn't get home until around 9. I cooked, ate, facetimed my partner for a bit and chilled out on my sofa. But, I felt very awake from such a busy day and from playing fo

Yesterday, someone got in touch with me who didn't feel he was addicted to porn, but felt like it was a real problem in his life. I have been exactly there myself. I get it. There can be a lot of unhelpful stigma around "porn addiction" and many misconceptions too.

A lot of people don't expect to have any desires and then are hit out of nowhere by strong compulsive desires. And it is right there that people face a problem. Porn addiction is not a problem when you have no desires. It is a problem when you do have desires.

When I was in a porn addiction, I found it hard to focus on one task at a time. I jumped from activity to activity and would give myself constant breaks to scroll on social media or have a snack. And often I'd end up watching porn and masturbating too. My focus was terrible.