What really makes porn addiction hard

When I used to struggle to stop watching porn, I believed it was hard because of:

Past traumas

Addictive personality

High sex-drive

Sexual content everywhere

Stress and loneliness

And I believed I would watch porn because of so many other things too. But, the truth is, the reason I would watch porn is because I experienced compulsive desires and did not know how to put the rational part of my mind back in charge. As such, my mind would be full of addictive thinking which I didn't know how to handle. It felt like my mind was incredibly busy and I'd be jumping from one thought to another and feel all over the place. I'd have thoughts like "this is going to last forever, I need to release" and inevitably I'd go ahead and relapse. Nowadays, I see things very differently.

I understand that in moments of compulsive desire, when a part of the mind is trying to get you to relapse - you have a choice in the present moment. And I use a 5-Fact script to make that choice. This puts the rational part of my mind back in control. That is really what it comes down to. My problem with porn was never about who I intrinsically was. It was about what choice do I make in that critical moment of compulsive desire. Learning this has enabled me to overcome any previous feelings of shame, and most importantly, know how to be in control of myself, moment by moment. If you are still struggling with a porn addiction, it doesn't mean there is something wrong with you. You just haven't been taught how to deal with the addicted part of the mind, yet. If you would like to get the same method (from Mari Paulus) that I've used to change my neural pathways, join the Beyond Compulsion Academy.