This shift in thinking changes everything

This past week I was on holiday in Portugal with my friends. Now I am out of the porn addiction - life is dramatically different. We had a great time and I managed to organise us going to a Sporting CP game which was one of the many highlights of our trip.

However, my friends flew back on different flights. One flew to Glasgow. One flew to London. And one flew to Bristol. I flew back to Manchester a day later than the rest of them. On that final day in Portugal, I was on my own.

In the past, I would probably have felt a bit of a "comedown" feeling from the highs of being around my friends. And the addicted part of the mind (APOTM) would have said things like "you are all on your own now. No one will know if you go and..."

I would likely have had thoughts like "how will I deal with this desire?" and "when will this feeling go away?". Eventually, I would have relapsed either on the holiday or on my first day back home.

This time was different. The key difference is I have trained myself to comfortable willingly accept any temporary discomfort at any moment. I know that I always have a choice. I know I can choose to relapse at any moment, in any way and in any place. But, I also know the consequences would ruin almost every area of my life. So, instead of going back into an addiction, I was able to return back to my life in Manchester and pick things up right where I left them with my amazing partner and with my work on BCA. For many years in the porn addiction, I only ever focused on either "doing the behaviour" or "not doing the behaviour". With the Beyond Compulsion method, a new option emerges. This option is to choose temporary discomfort to change your neural pathways, moment by moment. This changes everything. Want to get trained on changing your neural pathways? Join the Beyond Compulsion Academy.