When I was trying to quit porn, without the right tools, I'd do everything everyone told me to do.
But, I'd still relapse.
This made me feel like a failure and it was very frustrating.
I just kept going round and round in circles. I did my best and then one day I'd experience the desire and eventually give in to it.
This is what happens when you are on the defensive, trying not to give in.
What I learned was that to overcome my addiction, I needed a different offensive approach.
The approach I learned was not one filled with activities and good habits. No, I had already tried that. It had not worked.
The method I learned from Mari Paulus, my mentor, was one where I had a script that would help facilitate my choice whenever I had the compulsive desire. One A4 piece of paper which includes 5 facts. An exact template printed off.
Through reading through each of these 5 facts whenever I experienced the desire I was able to quit porn for good. I gained the ability to deal with the discomfort of the desire and feel empowered to make choices in that moment that I could be proud of.
I love helping clients copy my method as I get messages from them sharing how they also use their script and the impact it has.
I received this message from a client yesterday. This is one of many that I've received over the last 12 months just like this. For many people, it is the first time in their life they have actually felt truly in control and not like they have to run away from their desires.
When you learn how to change your neural pathways correctly with a rewiring script, permanent mental freedom truly is possible.