How to avoid becoming a circle person

The addicted part of the mind (APOTM) is very sneaky.

It has one job - to get you to engage in your compulsive behaviour (relapse) 24/7.

In the past, before learning this method, I used to believe there was a lesson to be found in every relapse.

I searched for a reason to explain to myself what I had done. I scraped around trying to find some kind of explanation.

Despair left me feeling alone and lost. It was a lonely time. But, I'd figure out some kind of justification and then I'd go again, starting a new streak.

This cycle just went round and round and round. It would have never ended. I would have lived my whole life stuck in a painful porn hell cycle.

Just managing and controlling the addiction with temporary streaks. A rollercoaster of ups and downs.

And then I was taught the Beyond Compulsion™ method by Mari Paulus and things changed dramatically. I stopped looking for explanations for relapsing and accepted that I had addicted neural pathways and that there was absolutely nothing wrong with me for wanting to watch porn.

I put my complete trust and faith in Mari's method and focused completely on the process.

This has served me very well and has enabled me to live a life where I am genuinely proud of the choices I get to make for myself, moment by moment. I've realised that you don't need a reason to watch porn. You just need to be willing to live with the consequences. Knowing that any excuse, justification, rationalisation to choose to engage in your compulsive behaviour is a junkie thought, coming from the APOTM can really help.

You don't need to treat the "reasons you relapse", you just need to deal with the APOTM correctly, dealing with every compulsive desire, moment by moment, as you rewire the brain. People do not relapse because there is something wrong with them, they relapse because they are using inadequate methods for dealing with the APOTM.