Taking 100% Responsibility

When I was stuck in a porn addiction, I blamed a lot of external events for my relapses.

I would scroll on social media and blame the algorithm for showing me sexual content.

Nowadays, I see right through that kind of junkie thinking. When you know how to deal with compulsive desires correctly, you learn that it is indeed 100% up to you whether you go ahead and watch porn or stop. You see there is literally nothing outside of your control that can determine whether you engage in compulsivity. Engaging in porn is about seeking porn and you will always KNOW when you are seeking it. In my social media days, I did KNOW I was seeking out sexual content. But, I let the addicted part of the mind (APOTM) convince me it was just an accident and that I was totally helpless and powerless.

What I love about taking 100% responsibility for your own choices is you get to feel really good about yourself when you start making rational choices, moment by moment. One of our clients shared his experience of this on the weekly check-in this week.