You haven't tried everything...

Concepts, theories, explanations, understanding, therapy, analysis — all of this can be good. When it comes to stopping behaviours that you want to stop, it can get in the way. There always comes a moment, an inevitable moment... of compulsive desire. No matter what you have learned, what you have been doing, there comes a moment when you want to engage in a behaviour, despite there being negative consequences. A lot of information online will get you to think through a wide variety of things. But, if it doesn't help you think through the choice that you have in the moment of compulsive desire, it is unlikely to help you solve your problem with compulsive behaviour. People think they have tried everything when it comes to stopping their compulsive behaviour. They fear that their future results will be determined by their past. But, often they have never been taught how to deal with compulsive desires in the present moment, so it is no wonder they have continued to relapse historically. The truth is that when people come and work with us and apply the Beyond Compulsion method diligently, they begin to take a completely different approach to what they have tried before. In fact, if they still hold onto previous methods and past attempts, it tends to get in the way of their success. Making choices in a rational way, in the present moment, is key. Simplicity is key. Doing the work is key.

And the work in terms of changing your neural pathways can only ever take place by thinking through the present moment as that is where real change takes place. In my latest YouTube video, I talk more about how the addicted part of the mind can use fear to keep people stuck in their compulsions.