Getting Your Needs Met

Back in 2021, I worked for a completely different porn addiction recovery business. I was struggling with porn and decided to ask the founder of this very experienced reputable program if I could do some marketing for them. I couldn't afford their program, but in exchange for helping them on social media I received access to their online education. To join directly as a customer, it would have cost me thousands of dollars.

And I definitely did not have thousands of dollars to spare! Whilst this was very generous of the company, looking back I can see why this program was ineffective and why I continued to relapse. There was a big focus on "getting your needs met".

I remember hearing that porn addiction is a symptom of "unmet needs" quite often. However, through my rational emotive therapy lens, I see a big problem with this way of thinking. To stop watching porn, you absolutely don't need: To get a good sleep every night

To feel connected to people every day

To find your purpose

To make a lot of money

To be in a fulfilling relationship

To exercise regularly

To have a meditation routine

To eat healthily

Absolutely not. All you need to know is how to deal with the inevitable moment of compulsive desire. When the addicted part of the mind (APOTM) says some bullshit like "it's been a long day, you deserve to watch some porn" or "I'll just have a quick peek and then I will stop" how do you respond? To see such thought patterns as irrational and to be able to respond rationally, moment by moment, is what is required to overcome porn addiction for good. We do this sharing an understanding into the addicted part of the mind, the rational part of the mind, and the child self.

And then most importantly, we build a tool to ensure the rational part of the mind can be used to deal with the addicted part of the mind effectively, time after time to rewire the addicted neural pathways.

Once you understand it all, it really is quite simple and it doesn't have to be some lifelong battle.

If you'd like to explore learning all of this with me and Mari further, then you can arrange for me to give you a private call on WhatsApp with us to talk through your actual needs further.

You can book the call here - https://calendly.com/beyondcompulsion/breakthrough