Enjoy your freedom, now.

I used to think that once I went enough days without porn, everything would change.

There was this illusion of a distant future. A pot of gold at the end of the rainbow.

I've worked with guys who've gone over 1 year without porn and were still miserable because they were relying on temporary techniques like willpower. A constant, daily struggle against the addiction, without any real changes in addicted neural pathways. Just marching through the pain, like a solider constantly at war.

I've gone down that route too. Streak after streak. Relapse after relapse. You always end up back in the same dark, dark place, without really changing anything.

Nowadays, I get to experience real freedom.

This past weekend was one of the best of the year for me. Meeting up with my best mates from back home, Sheffield. We went Go Karting and then spent the day together at the park playing football. It was my friend Ollie's birthday and he wanted to go out to a club later at night...

Often the best times in life are spent with the people closest to us. But, those times can be ruined by being in an addiction. In the past, I'd be terrified by the prospect of going out late at night with friends. "What will I do the tomorrow? How will I handle the bad sleep? How will I deal with the urges? What if I relapse? Ah I best stay in and avoid the night out, I don't want to ruin my streak". When you don't know how to deal with the addicted part of the mind correctly, you live in fear. Freedom isn't about avoiding urges for porn, it is about having the ability to deal with any urge at any time and know with 100% certainty you can handle it. I chose to go to the club with my friends, enjoy the night out (choosing to abstain from drinking) and then woke up the next day, feeling great.

Urges? Never a problem. That is real freedom. And it is possible for you too.

It all starts with changing how you think about things.

When your perspective changes, your life changes.