You try your best. You do everything everyone told you to do. And then an urge hits. You distract yourself, you avoid it, and then you eventually give in and go back to the hell you told yourself you'd never return to.
This was the path I took for over 9 years of my life. The impact of this cycle was severe. And now I am on a mission to get people out of this painful relapse loop. A lot of my work starts with helping people unlearn what does not work, why it doesn't work and helping people become aware of the real issue. The real issue has nothing to do with who you are, your sexual desires, or your past. Instead, it has everything to do with the inevitable moment of compulsive desire. It has everything to do with understanding the addicted part of the mind and dealing with the compulsive desire (urges) correctly. This is possible. If you'd like to learn more about why everything you've tried up until now hasn't worked, and how getting connected to the compulsive desire correctly is key - give this YouTube video a watch.