Wishing you didn't have desires?

A lot of people don't expect to have any desires and then are hit out of nowhere by strong compulsive desires. And it is right there that people face a problem. Porn addiction is not a problem when you have no desires. It is a problem when you do have desires. That is why we spend our time helping people with the moment of compulsive desire. It is all about being prepared for that moment. Over the weekend I was watching a documentary on the Marine Corps.

Do these guys train for war or do they prepare dances and songs for times of peace?

You have to be prepared. Expecting to be absent of desires is setting yourself up for failure. Most people completely miss the point of porn addiction recovery. They go around in circles trying random shit. Looking at the sun or eating vegetables thinking it's going to help them somehow. It has nothing to do with the real problem which is how to deal with compulsive desires. If you have been struggling with porn, it is not completely your fault. You have likely been led astray by the supposed "experts" spouting nonsense. Below is further analysis of how porn addiction recovery advice can keep people completely stuck by misunderstanding the real problem going on.