Look discomfort in the face

Before meeting Mari Paulus, who taught me the Beyond Compulsion method, I downplayed my porn addiction. After relapsing, I would try to have compassion for myself. I tried to tell myself that "it was okay" and that I had just "slipped up". I promised myself that I would start again tomorrow.

But, until the day we die, there is always another tomorrow.

One of the greatest things I have learned in life is to not fear discomfort, but instead embrace it to achieve what you want in life. Discomfort is like a signal that something isn't quite right. If you experience discomfort because you have relapsed - good. It means you are aware that porn is a problem and that you want to change. Don't run away from the discomfort, remember it. Write down how you feel. Write down how much this problem is impacting you. Face it as much as possible. Get as honest with yourself as you possibly can. The addicted part of the mind will resist this. The APOTM wants you to run towards the blanket of comfort and escape at all times. But, you know where that path leads... you have been there many times before. Take responsibility. You never slip up. You choose to engage in your compulsive behaviour because you have addicted neural pathways, right now. You haven't been taught how to deal with the APOTM yet to change these neural pathways.

If reading this causes you some kind of discomfort, do not shoot the messenger. I am only helping you face some harsh truths yourself. This kind of message is not for everyone. But, if you are one of the few people who resonate and you want to learn to experience discomfort by using a 5-Fact script to change your neural pathways, we are here to help. If you are sick of the discomfort of relapsing and trying again, you can join BCA to get the right education required to master this problem and move on with your life.