About Us
The Tom & Mari Story
Hey it's Tom here. Let me tell you about the story of me and Mari building the Beyond Compulsion Academy together.
So, it started with me running what was called the "Finally Quit Porn" podcast. I was on a mission to try and quit porn and was enjoying the journey of sharing this online, via a podcast (now called "Help is Here").
Back when I started, I was still relapsing and talking about this on the podcast.
How we met
I had recorded podcasts with a wide range of people, including therapists, addiction experts, recovery coaches, and people with all kinds of qualifications.
My podcast had picked up some listens and someone called Jessica from a small company called podcastguests.com emailed asking if they could feature my podcast in their newsletter.
I honestly thought it was going to be some kind of scam or something, but I decided to say yes because they hadn't asked for anything in return and I felt like I had nothing to lose...
Turns out it wasn't a scam at all and I get this spreadsheet back about a week later with like 60 people applying to come on the Finally Quit Porn podcast.
So I filter through all of the applications and talk to maybe 5 or 6 of the most experienced people when it comes to addiction / quitting porn. I interview them and hear pretty generic stuff from most of them. With no disrespect to those guests, they were great, but they were all sort of saying stuff I felt like I'd heard before.
But, my conversation with Mari was different. She talked about addiction differently and had way more experience than anyone else when it came to addiction recovery.
She'd listened to my previous episodes and had heard me talk about a recent relapse. She told me straight that I was in an addiction and asked if I wanted some help. I decided to go for it and underwent training with Mari.
My Recovery from Porn
So I get this coaching from Mari and I'm not going to lie, I kind of disagreed with everything Mari said at first. But, at the same time, it was like this other part of me (the rational part) knew deep down that everything she was saying was the truth.
So I kept going with it and put my trust in her. And I think that may have just about been the best decision I ever made. I learned 5 facts which I came to completely agree with and built out a specific script to deal with any compulsive desire.
I did not succeed right away. I had a few old thoughts to change first, but once I got it - I got it. And I've not looked back since.
It's ironic, but I had a podcast called "Finally Quit Porn" but that goal is a loose end in itself.
What I really wanted was to be in control of my choices, moment by moment. I wanted to make decisions for myself that I could be proud of and stop going back to behaviours which honestly destroyed my mental health.
The education I received from Mari helped me change my neural pathways correctly and this positively impacted every area of my life.
I developed a healthy, respectful relationship with a great woman, I succeeded and surpassed my goals in my 9-5 job, and I had the courage to go all in on building my own business (leaving my 9-5 in the process).
I couldn't have done any of this if I hadn't learned how to take back control of my mind, and ultimately get my life back.
Our Clients
I tried to quit porn for over a decade, but just kept on relapsing. The Beyond Compulsion™ method was the solution I'd been looking for.
We are now sharing this method with clients from all over the world.
So far, we have worked with people based in a wide variety of countries including: Argentina, Australia, Canada, England, Germany, Netherlands, Norway, Scotland, Switzerland, Wales, USA (wide range of states), and Vietnam.
Meet The Team
Book a call with me
If you are in the same position I was before meeting Mari (still relapsing) - we can help.
Feel free to book in a confidential, 1-1, shame-free, non-judgemental discovery call with me to explore where you are at now, and your vision for your future.
I look forward to talking with you.